I believe a kid is like a project. You have a system to get the result you want, raising a person that can live in the real world and be happy and successful.

You’re a role model on what that is. You can influence your child.

What you can’t do is control their every waking moment. That doesn’t work.

I see parents that are so strict it’s amazing that it is even legal to do what they are doing to their child.

And I see those kids become 18 (or earlier) and leave, screwed up and unable to handle the real world while hating their parents.

You need to let your kids be themselves. Yes you can influence them but much of that is by what you do, not by have tons of strict rules telling them everything they can’t do.

People don’t like being told what not to do. I sure don’t. In fact, doing that tends to make people do what you don’t want them to do.

And in business you also need to let people fail. Yes have a system in place that reduces that but it comes down to people. People are what makes things happen. Give them a system that is doable and it’s amazing what people can accomplish.

Raising a child is the ultimate leadership training. is a post from: Abundance Unlimited
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• are a CEO of your own company and you have two contractors having a dispute and you tell you staff that you don’t want to hear about it and you’re the only one that can resolve the issue. Leaders are not afraid of confrontation.
• avoid renegotating a contract with a contractor in order to solely drive the price down
• avoid answering questions with dead silence
• avoid eye contact while obviously telling a lie
• are in a network marketing company and take the training funds your group paid you to take winners of a contest out for dinner and let them believe it’s a gift from you
• are in a networking marketing company and you criticize your team for not getting people to an opportunity meeting and you haven’t as well
• avoid negotiating at all
• forcibly legally bring in a third party to take your side
• blackmail people

Years ago I worked with a group of people and after their business failed I moved on. A friend of mine John continued doing business with one person out of that group. This person (don’t remember his name, let’s call him Frank) was a big wig in the community and had connections. He would hear of opportunities and tell John. John would work on a deal for months without Frank. If the deal worked out and was about to make money Frank would show up and assume leadership. He used NLP reframing techniques and would convince John that he deserved a vast majority of the money. No written contract, no verbal contract. Just sheer con-man.

You’re not a leader if you just have connections. You have to have leadership skills.

When John told me this story I told him we call those type of people leaches. He laughed. I had seen Frank do this before which is why I don’t do business with him. John instantly saw that Frank was just taking advantage of him. John looked up to Frank, he thought he was a leader. But Frank wasn’t a leader. He didn’t do anything but tell John of an opportunity. That deserves a referral fee. It doesn’t deserve being manipulated and convinced that you’re stealing from Frank.

Be you’re own leader. Be the person that would inspire you.

If you are mentoring someone giving constructive criticism is appropriate, but what is inappropriate, make that just plain wrong, is blame.

Inspire people by doing what you say. If you are teaching a sales technique and you don’t use it yourself and then blame people for sucking at it, it’s your fault. You have to be a leader by doing not just talking. And if they try to convince you that no it’s really just your fault, that you suck and they aren’t being a leader and showing people how it is done then rethink them being a leader for you.

People look up to leaders that are DOING. Not just talking. Leadership is active not passive.

Find someone else. If you’re in network marketing connect with your upline. If you’re a small business look for another mentor or another mastermind group. Don’t put up with “negative leaders”.  Those two words shouldn’t be side by side. A leader can’t be negative. If your energy is low after talking to your mentor, leader, or mastermind group rethink talking to them at all, ever.

Losing energy with leaches will eventually destroy your business, yourself, your family, your entire life.

Leaches need you, you don’t need them.

You deserve better and you are the only one that can make that decision.

Leaders and Leaches Which are you? is a post from: Abundance Unlimited
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We all enjoy being around people with energy. They inspire us. They are stimulating, fun, and uplifting. An energetic person has passion in his voice, a bounce in his step, and a smile on his face. Energy makes a person likable, and likability is a key ingredient in persuasive communications. Many business professionals underestimate the energy level required to generate enthusiasm among their listeners. But electrifying speakers bring it. They have an energy that is several levels higher than the people they are attempting to influence.

Most business professionals could use an energy boost for public speaking situations such as Webinars, podcasts, staff meetings, conference calls, and television and radio interviews. Each of these opportunities requires a higher level of energy than would normally be appropriate if you were just chatting to someone in the hallway. But how do you project the right level of vigor without seeming over the top? By weighing yourself on an energy scale. And on this scale, more is better.

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The renowned entrepreneur behind the Virgin empire, Richard Branson, once said: “Lavish praise on people, and they flourish; criticize, and they shrivel up.” Branson suggests that praise is the key to success in all his relationships, whether as a boss or a father. Showing appreciation and expressing sincere praise is the easiest way to establish a connection with another person.Jim Thompson, executive director of the national nonprofit Positive Coaching Alliance, once told me he turns staff meetings into celebrations. Each meeting begins with 15 minutes of “appreciations and triumphs.” It’s an opportunity for employees to publicly recognize someone else at the meeting. One person might acknowledge a colleague who stayed late to help assemble material for a presentation or who made a last-minute trip to conduct a new pitch. The average person feels under-appreciated, says Thompson. “But in an environment where people are noticed for good things—or even for taking their best shot if they fail—they’re more likely to be fired up.”

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